Tuesday, July 2, 2013

Not sure how to even start this post...

My Dad passed away on June 20th. We've all been lost ever since. I was blessed to have him in my life for 49 years....oh, but what I wouldn't give to have more. My Mom and Dad were blessed with 55 years together and were so in love. He passed away at home in our arms. This is what I wrote and somehow managed to read for his memorial service because I really am lost as to how to explain what a great man he was and how much we miss him.


My Dad was the most unselfish man I’ve ever know. He cared for and loved his family with every fiber in his being.  He always put his family first. We were his world and he was ours.

My Mom and Dad set the bar high for what a marriage is supposed to be like and with it an amazing example to us all.

My Dad taught me many things and many lessons in life. He taught me practical things every girl needs to know like  – roofing, how to put siding on a house, landscaping ,how to drive a boat and a car...the list goes on and on. 

One lesson that I learned from him has always stayed with me.  I was about 12 or 13 and I drove my boat to my friend Tut’s house which was about 5 miles down the lake from our home. It was a small 10 ft aluminum boat with a little 10 HP motor that you steered from the back. After spending the day at her place it was time to go back home.  I called my parents to let them know I was coming home – a rule they insisted on if I was to have the privilege of using that little boat. 

They told me that the big part of the lake was rough and to make sure I had my life jacket on. The bay that sheltered Tut’s house didn’t look too wavy at all so I didn’t think too much of it – after all Lake Nosbonsing was never that rough – one of the great things about small lakes. So I threw my life jacket on and started home. Well when I headed out of that bay and onto the big part of the lake – I saw what they meant. I had never seen waves that big before on the lake. The waves started coming up over, and into the boat. I grabbed my bailing can and started bailing the water out while steering with the other hand. Being a pretty good swimmer – more like a water rat at that age -  I’m not afraid to admit – I was terrified. I thought about turning around and going back to my friend’s house but I remembered what my Dad had taught me – how to ride with the waves, so I carried on towards home. I was drenched and having a hard time seeing through the water that was covering me every time I went down into another wave when all of a sudden I saw my Dad in his boat coming to meet me.   When he reached me he helped me into his boat and tied my little one behind to tow it home. We had just started going again when he stopped his boat, told me to get back into mine and he would follow beside me. I remember thinking What? Why would he do that to me when I was safe in his boat and terrified to go back into the little one.  He simply said “If you’re going to be out on the lake by yourself, you need to learn how to handle the rough waters as well as the calm waters”.

Dad was right and I made it home safely with him beside me.

Many times throughout rough waters in my life, my Dad and Mom have always been beside me seeing me safely through – no matter what.  And when things get bad and I think I can’t handle the situation in front of me, I remember his words.
I think I speak for all of our family that June 20th was the hardest day of our lives. This past week has been full of rough waters but I know with God’s Love and our family and friends beside us that we will find calm waters again.

You will be in our hearts and memories forever Daddy.



8 comments:

  1. Prayers are with you. I lost my dad over 24 years ago. I think about him everyday. We are both so fortunate to have wonderful memories.

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  2. I am sorry about the passing of your father. What a wonderful tribute to a wonderful man! My thoughts and prayers are with you. Bunches of hugs, Lecia

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  3. Connie ~ so sorry to hear about the loss of your
    Dad. Thoughts and Prayers for you and your family.
    {{Hugs}}
    Blessings
    Robin

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  4. Oh my goodness what a life lesson. So sorry for your loss, a lot of bloggers have lost loved ones this year. It is a good thing we all have faith and good memories. My what a wonderful post. I have to admit it was raining on my face after reading this.

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  5. Oh Connie you got me crying....what an amazing story and what a great example to live by - you did indeed have a great father and I am so sorry he passed away. But what a legacy he left behind.
    My prayers are with you and your family.
    Blessings,
    Karen

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  6. Also...your father is a very handsome man! Reminds me much of my father.
    Karen

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